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That being said, I work diligently to maintain healthy and well defined boundaries with my students, always with the hope that they have a clear understanding that I am their teacher, not a casual friend or buddy. So I stress that my personal life is not something that my students are allowed to cross in to. Generally, they are respectful of these lines, and I am always appreciative of it.
But I am a big believer that successfully teaching someone anything is a social experience - and one that must be understood from a personal perspective. To learn, I mean really learn, we have to connect to it personally. To that end, I break down the fourth wall in my classroom. I learned about the fourth wall concept as a young theater student, and it is defined as such, "The fourth wall is the imaginary "wall" at the front of the stage in a traditional three-walled box-set theater. Speaking directly to or otherwise acknowledging the audience through this imaginary wall in a play, is referred to as "breaking the fourth wall." Think Ferris Bueller (or at a Ryan Adams concert) speaking directly to the audience - it is endearing. And it helps all of us root for him down the stretch.
In order to truly teach my students history, I often have to present stories (of the Romans, wars, myths, etc.) to them - and teach them analysis. But when I make mistakes, or when I see that a personal story from my life may better explicate the idea - I break the fourth wall and speak directly to my students. When I am enforcing the tardy policy, or discussing grade percentages at the end of the semester - I am performing a professional duty - and all of my students know that. But they also know that I am a normal, vulnerable human being who is working a job, and lives his life outside of that job.
I believe that one of the biggest pitfalls that teachers fall into is hiding behind that fourth wall of professionalism, at the expense of developing positive relationships with students, and/or showing any vulnerability in the classroom. So while my boundaries are real - by the end of the year, my students (and their families) and I really know each other well. Reconciling the balance between healthy boundaries and healthy teacher/student relationships is a huge part of teaching - and I hope that I can continue to find the sweet spot in that effort.